Do INFJs Care About Physical Appearance?

Contrary to popular belief, INFJs do indeed care about physical appearance, but in a different way. While many believe that external appearance holds no significance for this deeply introspective personality type, our fascination with how people present themselves is far from superficial.

Unveiling the Metaphysical

When evaluating someone's appearance, we don't simply assign a score based on how they look. Instead, we delve into the metaphysical aspects such as personality, philosophy, and mental state. In essence, we consider the essence beyond the physical appearance. For example, if A is rated at 6 and B at 8, we are not merely assigning points but interpreting the data behind the numbers. We recognize that the difference in appearance is a reflection of the individual's inner world. This is why an INFJ might prefer someone who scores higher on the 'metaphysical' scale even if the difference in physical appearance is slight.

Beauty Beyond the Surface

Of course, we do notice beautiful people. However, our interest or admiration doesn't end there. We are naturally curious about the inner self of those we find attractive. To us, a person's beauty isn't just about their physical attributes but about their character and integrity. There is nothing more repulsive than a person who is purely superficial and doesn't care about anything beyond their looks. Interestingly, most INFJs may not even realize that they care about physical appearance on this level.

Intellectual and Emotional Depth

INFJs often put great effort into their appearance, viewing it as a form of self-expression and communication. The way they present themselves is a reflection of their personality and values. Even those who don't care about their appearance do so with a certain awareness that sets them apart. For an INFJ, it's all about the individual's choices and the message they wish to convey. The idea of an INFJ not caring about appearance can be a misperception. While we may not focus solely on outward beauty, we do value the overall impression someone makes, as it reflects their true character.

Let's not forget the importance of health and well-being. We are happy and impressed when someone demonstrates a commitment to their physical health, irrespective of their appearance. A truly healthy and well-maintained individual is something to admire at all times.

Essence and Authenticity

At the core of our nature, INFJs are essence-driven. We are keen observers who can see beyond the layers of a person's appearance. Whether someone has a beautiful face or an ugly one, we can perceive their true nature. As a personality type, we value emotional and intellectual depth over superficial attraction. Our love is deeply rooted in the essence of a person, rather than their physical manifestation. We, the INFJs, love the true self beneath the surface, which is why we are called to 'see' the real person.

The INFJ Perspective

As an INFJ, here are a few lessons I've learned about appearance at the age of 51:

Those who are beautifully striking on the outside may not always be as genuine on the inside. True beauty comes from the heart, not just the face. We, as INFJs, have an innate ability to look beyond the surface and see the true essence of a person. Our deep connection with an individual is rooted in their inner essence, not just their appearance in the physical world.

So, when an INFJ compliments someone, it's not just about their physical appearance but a reflection of their character and the depth of our connection.

Conclusion

INFJs do care about physical appearance, but our care is deeply intertwined with our need to understand the person's essence. True beauty is not just skin deep, and an INFJ can spot it in the most subtle ways. Whether you are someone with a striking appearance or someone who values authenticity, an INFJ can appreciate and find value in both.