Why Some Trans People Don't Regret Transitioning Until Gender Reassignment Surgery

Transgender individuals who transition and undergo gender reassignment surgery often do so after a long journey of self-discovery and internal struggle. However, in rare cases, regrets do arise even after the surgical transition. This article explores these nuanced perspectives and offers insights into why some trans people might experience regret only post-surgery.

The Rarity of Post-Surgical Regret

It's important to note that post-operative regret for transitioning is exceedingly rare. Studies indicate that fewer than 1% of post-operative trans individuals experience such feelings. When it does happen, it typically stems from two main reasons: severe complications with the surgery itself or exposure to discrimination, stigma, and mistreatment. This section delves into these specific cases.

A Complex Journey

The detransitioning and regret of transgender individuals is a multifaceted issue with no single answer. Here are some scenarios that explain why someone might only regret the surgical transition:

Peer Pressure: Some individuals might opt for the surgery under peer pressure, feeling that it is necessary to be accepted as a "real trans person" in others' eyes. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy if they fail to meet certain expectations or face rejection. Family Support Issues: The lack of support from peers or family members can sometimes push individuals to undergo the surgery prematurely. When they recoil from the reality of the change, it can lead to regret. Incorrect Identification: A very small fraction might realize that they were not actually transgender and had rushed into the transition. Emotional and Psychological Factors: Post-operative depression and the sudden nature of visible change can contribute to long-term regret. This is especially true in cases where hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and other non-surgical changes were not as confronting as the physical transformation brought about by surgery.

However, it's also important to note that in 64% of cases, detransitioning is only temporary and the individual returns to fully transitioning after finding a supportive environment.

Common Misconceptions

The author of this article, Mrs. Kea T. Benson, shares her personal experience and observation. She believes that specific cases of regret are extremely rare and emphasizes that most people who transition and detransition still identify as transgender. Mr. Richard Foster, Kea's son, shares additional insights, illustrating the challenges faced by transgender individuals and the emotional toll it can take.

Emotional Struggles and Support

Mrs. Benson encourages those who feel regret to remember the primary reason for their transition: to live fully. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and therapy can often help in emotional healing, while social support is crucial for sustaining a comfortable and safe environment.

Her own journey and the emigration of her son from a conflicting marriage, while personal, serve as a powerful reminder of the dedication required to live authentically. Mrs. Benson emphasizes that transitioning saved her life and provided her with a sense of happiness and relief from years of gender dysphoria.

Her conclusion is that the best day of her life as a woman is better than the worst day of her life as a man, highlighting the profound transformation that transitioning can bring.

In summary, while post-surgical regret is rare, understanding the complexities and reasons behind such feelings can help support those in the transgender community. Support, empathy, and awareness are key to enabling a fulfilling and supportive transition for as many as possible.